TNW24: Scattered but Sparkly with Sasha Gray

TNW24: Scattered but Sparkly with Sasha Gray

Sasha Gray from Scattered Sasha and I have a great conversation about giving grace, especially to ourselves, her accidental business, and how she started her famous live show.

It should be a crime to have as much fun as Sasha Gray and I had recording this episode. We laughed, we cried, we talked everything from weddings to booze (margaritas and whiskey, of course). The conversation’s a blast, and I hope you enjoy it.

Sasha and I met in a Facebook group, and shortly afterward, I was planning my first summit. Carrie Sharpe of He Says, She Says insisted that I have Sasha as a guest, and the rest, as they say, is history. Since then, Sasha has appeared in my summits, as a guest speaker in my group, and even as one of my popular Notable Woman Live! guests.

In this episode, we talk about her accidental business, how she cultivated her tribe (her following), and how she started her live show, and much, much more! I hope you enjoy this episode and don’t forget to join The Society of Notable Women if you want to continue the conversation! And of course, Sasha has a great gift for you! Head on over to get her “Your Journey: 5 Ways to Increase Daily Joy.”


  • Why you can’t take yourself too seriously
  • How Sasha became known as Sasha Gray (spoiler: it’s a pseudonym)
  • How Sasha chose to name her page “Lipstick, Margaritas, and Hairspray” (now Scattered Sasha)
  • How Sasha cultivated such a huge tribe (at the time of this recording, it was 239K now up to 255K)
  • How Sasha started an accidental business
  • The creation of the “unbreakable” token and its impact on people
  • Why we all need to give ourselves grace
  • How Sasha started her show (you can watch it here)
  • Sasha getting married at the racetrack

I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did creating it. You can listen now, right here from this webpage by clicking the play button below.

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Today’s Guest

Sasha Gray

“There’s so much going on in the world, and there’s so much happening in everybody’s life that it’s overwhelming, and you have to give yourself grace to get through every day sometimes.”

About Sasha Gray

Sasha Gray is a Motivational Mindset Mentor and Business Coach for individuals and business owners. She specializes in finding the positive in a negative world and helping others rediscover their self-confidence, kick the self-doubt, and use humor along their journey to make even the roughest roads smooth.

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Sasha’s Gift for You

If you liked this episode, check out:

The Super U Summit 3 STEP BLUEPRINT TO BECOME A KICKASS AUTHOR with Gwendolen Wilder (must join group to watch the video)

The Notable Woman Podcast ROCKIN’ YOUR SOCIAL JUSTICE BUSINESS with Missy Sturtevant

The Notable Woman Live! with Sasha Gray

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3 Step Blueprint to Become a Kickass Author

3 Step Blueprint to Become a Kickass Author

Author, Certified Business Consultant, and Speaker Gwendolen Wilder

The Notable Woman is proud to present the Super U Summit, 30 empowering women speakers over 10 days.

In this Super U Summit Talk, author Gwendolen Wilder gives us her 3 Step Blueprint to Become a Kickass Author.

Who’s Gwendolen?

Gwendolen is an Author, Certified Business Strategist & Motivational Consulting Coach. She’s the published author of, “It’s OK To Tell My Story, Surviving Common Law Domestic Violence” which demonstrates the relationship between childhood abandonment, sexual assault, domestic violence and workplace violence. Gwendolen is a Kickass mom, honorably retired USAF veteran and a survivor of sexual assault and domestic violence. She uses her experiences and expertise in social services, business management and psychology to inspire abuse survivors to gain self-confidence, assertiveness and independence by starting businesses. She helps entrepreneurs to start, grow and manage businesses. And, she forges solid management programs for large business entities to develop positive corporate behaviors. Gwendolen is here to help you kickstart your journey to Wilder Success.


From Gwendolen: Discover the foundations for my upcoming Author Mastery Program where I share how to build a business based off a book; writing essentials, business strategies and how it all starts with self-management. I cover in-depth information in the areas of self-awareness, crisis management, goal setting, research, planning, writing, publishing, funding, marketing and more. I share my actual experiences (good and bad) and the differences I learned in writing gratitude journals, fiction book, non-fiction book and a non-fiction chapter in an Anthology.


Gwendolen’s free gift for you is her masterclass on 8 Creative Ways to Write a Book. You can check it out here.


Please join us by clicking on the link below, which will take you to Gwendolen’s video in the Society for Notable Women Facebook group. (You must join the group to see the video.)

TNW Live! with Alexa Bigwarfe

TNW Live! with Alexa Bigwarfe

Publisher, Author Extraordinaire Alexa Bigwarfe

Welcome to Season 1, episode 3 of The Notable Woman Live! This is another episode that has some tech glitches, these completely my fault… But this is still a great conversation with publisher and author Alexa Bigwarfe so I leave it here despite my embarrassment.

Who’s Alexa?

Alexa Bigwarfe is a wife, mother to 3 wildlings, devoted advocate, blogger, author, and publisher. Her writing career began after her infant daughter passed away at 2 days old. She has written and/or edited and published eight books, including Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother and Ditch the Fear and Just Write It! She uses that hard-earned publishing knowledge to support other writers and entrepreneurs at She also owns the small hybrid-publishing company Kat Biggie Press (, dedicated to sharing women’s works of inspiration and self-help. She enjoys drinking wine, spending time with her husband and friends, traveling, and just because life isn’t full enough, hosting the “Lose the Cape!” podcast featuring inspirational mothers and women making a difference in the world.

In this episode, we talk about Alexa’s personal journey, her podcast, and her career as a publisher.

Free Gift for You!

Alexa’s free gift for you is pretty amazing, I cannot tell a lie. It’s a FREE 30-day writing challenge. With over 250 million Americans who want to write a book, Alexa’s got 30 simple strategies over 30 days that will help you write that book that you desperately want to write. Sign up here. 

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How to Get Booked to Speak

How to Get Booked to Speak


The Notable Woman is proud to present the Super U Summit, 30 empowering women speakers over 10 days.

In this amazing Super U Summit Talk, speaker and coach Soness Stevens guides us on “How to Get Booked to Speak!”


Soness is a TED & TEDx speaker, weekly NHK TV Communications Navigator, and Associate Professor of business presentation skills. She works with TEDx speakers, techies and introverts to become engaging presenters, both online and on stage. She uses a unique combination of Positive Psychology principles, NLP, education, and entertainment to teach Presentation and Platform Skills at Yokohama National University, based on her book, Show-N-Tell: Presenting from the Heart, the first multi-media textbook used at major universities in Japan. You may have seen her on NHK or Fox TV Japan, or heard her as the official English voice of Hello Kitty.


I met Soness in one of her classes, Get Booked to Speak in a Week, and I could not believe how great this class was. It was seriously one of the best classes I have ever taken. The material was great and so actionable. And the real win was Soness. She gave us all such individual attention, and she really helped me hone in on my idea of what I wanted to speak about. It’s actually the talk I am going to give tomorrow. (And for the curious, I really did get booked to speak in a week! I think my grand total from the work I did that week was 5 speaking engagements, one I booked that week and four others came from doing the homework in the weeks that followed.)


Soness’ free gift for you is her “Road Map to TED.” Get it here.


Please join us by clicking on the link below, which will take you to Soness’ video in the Society for Notable Women Facebook group. (You must join the group to see the video.)

TNW17: Outdoor Adventures for You and Your Child with Rebecca P. Cohen and Marni Penning Coleman

TNW17: Outdoor Adventures for You and Your Child with Rebecca P. Cohen and Marni Penning Coleman

About this episode

Adventure awaits you in the great outdoors, or your own backyard if you can use your imagination! And if you need a place to get started or a little help, PJ is here to help in the wonderful children’s series PJ’s Backyard Adventures. Today’s interview, my first duo interview, features notable women Rebecca P. Cohen, author, and Marni Penning Coleman, illustrator. Marni is a friend of my dear love Tia Shearer Bassett (from The Notable Woman Podcast Episode 1 fame), and she reached out to me about being on the show with Rebecca. I have wanted to get authors and illustrators on the show so I was super happy to be introduced to them and was totally floored to discover during the interview that they are sisters. How cool is that?

In our conversation, we talk about outdoor play, why it’s important for both adults and kids, and how we can incorporate it in our lives even when it’s cold! We also chat about Marni’s life as an actor turned illustrator, Rebecca’s first book and going both the traditional publishing route as well as going independent.

This is a great episode for authors, illustrators, parents, aunties/uncles, people who know they need to get time outside but aren’t sure why, and those interested in creating their own work. Enjoy!

About Rebecca P. Cohen and Marni Penning Coleman
So the fact that your inspiration can come from filling the needs in your own life, and that the needs that you’re filling in your own life can help other people, that’s, I think that’s a pretty big takeaway. (Marni Penning Coleman)

Rebecca P. Cohen believes time outside transforms our lives for the better. Rebecca is author of the new children’s book series PJ’s Backyard Adventures, as well as author 15 Minutes Outside: 365 Ways to Get Out of the House and Connect with Your Kids, and creator of Rebecca Plants Curiosity Cards. She is also host of the video series, Get Out of the House, which shows fun ideas for time outside in every season. For Rebecca’s inspiring blog and free downloads, visit

Marni Penning Coleman is a playwright, teacher, VoiceOver artist, children’s book illustrator, two-time Helen Hayes Award nominee, and other-award-winning Shakespearean actress who lives with her husband, son, and dog in Falls Church, VA. She co-founded Cincinnati Shakespeare Company in 1994 and made a living during the 2008 election as a Sarah Palin impersonator. When not playing with her son or drawing “PJ’s Backyard Adventures,” Marni narrates audiobooks for the blind for the Library of Congress. For more information, visit

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Book Review: Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

Book Review: Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

I don’t really watch TV. If I do, I stream. Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime are my jam.

Which means I don’t watch TV on Thursday night.

Which means I don’t really know what it means to “own Thursday night.”

However, I still know who Shonda Rhimes is. She’s a boss, and I make it my business to know powerful, boss bosses. Shonda Rhimes is a powerful television producer and writer. Her long list of credits include Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice, Scandal, and How to Get Away with Murder, as well as her newest show The Catch. She has her OWN production company, aptly named Shondaland. She devastates people on a regular basis. Even I have seen the Denny/Izzie Grey’s Anatomy’s episodes that leave people as sniveling shells of the former selves. (And, of course, me too.) I had a friend who just started streaming Grey’s Anatomy who watched the episode for the first time this month, and she Facebook posted about how she remembered her friends being broken years before. All she could do now was drink wine and sob. That’s how good Shonda Rhimes is. 10 years old and that episode is still going strong.

woman readingSo when my friend Nicole shoved Year of Yes; How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes into my hand, I said, “Yes, please.” Maybe I don’t have cable, but I respect a woman who has her own night of TV. I wanted to know everything and anything there is to know about Shonda Rhimes. My friend also said that as a new Mom, she thought I could relate.

The premise behind Year of Yes is simple. Ms. Rhimes’ sister made a passing comment at Thanksgiving about how Ms. Rhimes always never said yes to anything. It struck her so fiercely, and no matter how many ways she tried to deny it, she couldn’t find that statement false. Ms. Rhimes than resolved to celebrate her own “Year of Yes” – a year where she would say yes to every and any opportunity that came her way. The results are thought-provoking, hilarious, and deeply moving.

Ms. Rhimes takes you with her as she tentatively says yes when she wants to scream “NO!” – from giving a commencement speech at Dartmouth, to appearing on Jimmy Kimmel, to attending an event at the Kennedy Center and sharing a box with President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama. She shows that by saying “YES!” to you, sometimes you are saying “NO!” to something bad for you, whether it be habits, food, or even people.

woman jumping with umbrellaI’ve heard this book described both as a memoir and also as self-help. I’ve also heard people complain that Ms. Rhimes goes on and on,
meandering, and that she’s perhaps self-indulgent. To all those ideas and complaints, I quite disagree. Year of Yes is a creation. It’s a theatre piece, it’s a television show, it’s a novel, it’s a movie. The story unfolds. Shonda Rhimes is taking the reader on a journey, just like she does on television, and you don’t know where she’s going to take you. Everything isn’t going to happen in order, chronology doesn’t matter, but how you feel does. If you are a person who reads memoirs as a genre, you might not like this book because it isn’t quite that. If you like reading self-help, you might not like this book either because it doesn’t quite fit in that genre.

If you respect the art of creation, appreciate it, and are mesmerized by those that engage in that creation, I think you will love this book. I certainly did! I put my hand in Shonda’s and went on her journey. And it was exhilarating! I bet every Thursday night is like that for millions of Shonda fans.

I might need to start watching TV. On Thursday.

Have you read Year of Yes? What did you think?

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