TNW24: Scattered but Sparkly with Sasha Gray

TNW24: Scattered but Sparkly with Sasha Gray

Sasha Gray from Scattered Sasha and I have a great conversation about giving grace, especially to ourselves, her accidental business, and how she started her famous live show.

It should be a crime to have as much fun as Sasha Gray and I had recording this episode. We laughed, we cried, we talked everything from weddings to booze (margaritas and whiskey, of course). The conversation’s a blast, and I hope you enjoy it.

Sasha and I met in a Facebook group, and shortly afterward, I was planning my first summit. Carrie Sharpe of He Says, She Says insisted that I have Sasha as a guest, and the rest, as they say, is history. Since then, Sasha has appeared in my summits, as a guest speaker in my group, and even as one of my popular Notable Woman Live! guests.

In this episode, we talk about her accidental business, how she cultivated her tribe (her following), and how she started her live show, and much, much more! I hope you enjoy this episode and don’t forget to join The Society of Notable Women if you want to continue the conversation! And of course, Sasha has a great gift for you! Head on over to get her “Your Journey: 5 Ways to Increase Daily Joy.”

IN THIS EPISODE, WE EXPLORE:

  • Why you can’t take yourself too seriously
  • How Sasha became known as Sasha Gray (spoiler: it’s a pseudonym)
  • How Sasha chose to name her page “Lipstick, Margaritas, and Hairspray” (now Scattered Sasha)
  • How Sasha cultivated such a huge tribe (at the time of this recording, it was 239K now up to 255K)
  • How Sasha started an accidental business
  • The creation of the “unbreakable” token and its impact on people
  • Why we all need to give ourselves grace
  • How Sasha started her show (you can watch it here)
  • Sasha getting married at the racetrack

I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did creating it. You can listen now, right here from this webpage by clicking the play button below.

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Today’s Guest

Sasha Gray

“There’s so much going on in the world, and there’s so much happening in everybody’s life that it’s overwhelming, and you have to give yourself grace to get through every day sometimes.”

About Sasha Gray

Sasha Gray is a Motivational Mindset Mentor and Business Coach for individuals and business owners. She specializes in finding the positive in a negative world and helping others rediscover their self-confidence, kick the self-doubt, and use humor along their journey to make even the roughest roads smooth.

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Sasha’s Gift for You

If you liked this episode, check out:

The Super U Summit 3 STEP BLUEPRINT TO BECOME A KICKASS AUTHOR with Gwendolen Wilder (must join group to watch the video)

The Notable Woman Podcast ROCKIN’ YOUR SOCIAL JUSTICE BUSINESS with Missy Sturtevant

The Notable Woman Live! with Sasha Gray

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3 Step Blueprint to Become a Kickass Author

3 Step Blueprint to Become a Kickass Author

Author, Certified Business Consultant, and Speaker Gwendolen Wilder

The Notable Woman is proud to present the Super U Summit, 30 empowering women speakers over 10 days.

In this Super U Summit Talk, author Gwendolen Wilder gives us her 3 Step Blueprint to Become a Kickass Author.

Who’s Gwendolen?

Gwendolen is an Author, Certified Business Strategist & Motivational Consulting Coach. She’s the published author of, “It’s OK To Tell My Story, Surviving Common Law Domestic Violence” which demonstrates the relationship between childhood abandonment, sexual assault, domestic violence and workplace violence. Gwendolen is a Kickass mom, honorably retired USAF veteran and a survivor of sexual assault and domestic violence. She uses her experiences and expertise in social services, business management and psychology to inspire abuse survivors to gain self-confidence, assertiveness and independence by starting businesses. She helps entrepreneurs to start, grow and manage businesses. And, she forges solid management programs for large business entities to develop positive corporate behaviors. Gwendolen is here to help you kickstart your journey to Wilder Success.

TELL ME MORE ABOUT THE TALK TOPIC

From Gwendolen: Discover the foundations for my upcoming Author Mastery Program where I share how to build a business based off a book; writing essentials, business strategies and how it all starts with self-management. I cover in-depth information in the areas of self-awareness, crisis management, goal setting, research, planning, writing, publishing, funding, marketing and more. I share my actual experiences (good and bad) and the differences I learned in writing gratitude journals, fiction book, non-fiction book and a non-fiction chapter in an Anthology.

FREE GIFT FOR YOU

Gwendolen’s free gift for you is her masterclass on 8 Creative Ways to Write a Book. You can check it out here.

HOW TO WATCH

Please join us by clicking on the link below, which will take you to Gwendolen’s video in the Society for Notable Women Facebook group. (You must join the group to see the video.)

TNW Live! with Donielle Morris

TNW Live! with Donielle Morris

Coach and Consultant, Donielle Morris

In this 8th episode of Season 1 of The Notable Woman Live!, I interview Donielle Morris, and we contemplate the question, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

Who’s Donielle?

Donielle Morris Aparo lives by the question, “What Would You Do if You Weren’t Afraid?” but it wasn’t always that way. At the age of 19 years old, she was diagnosed with a life-altering autoimmune disease that left her body completely destroyed. Battling through years of digestive inflammation and later an allergic reaction to a medication that left her body stricken with arthritis, she discovered yoga. Three years after her first yoga class, she enrolled in a 200-Hour Yoga Teacher Training and was certified in January 2013. Having an extensive family history with cancer and beating a chronic illness herself, she knew that she ultimately wanted to share her story with people who were facing similar physical challenges. In November 2014, under the guidance of Jnani Chapman, a pioneer in the field of Yoga Therapy, Donielle completed Level 1 Yoga Therapy in Cancer & Chronic Illness and shortly thereafter began working with cancer patients. She is a coach and consultant, as well, and works with creatives, yoga teachers, and possibly you (wink, wink <<< From Cristin, btw).

Free Gift for You

Donielle’s free gift for you is a free 30-minute coaching consultation call. Book yours here.

How to Watch

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TNW Live! with Alexa Bigwarfe

TNW Live! with Alexa Bigwarfe

Publisher, Author Extraordinaire Alexa Bigwarfe

Welcome to Season 1, episode 3 of The Notable Woman Live! This is another episode that has some tech glitches, these completely my fault… But this is still a great conversation with publisher and author Alexa Bigwarfe so I leave it here despite my embarrassment.

Who’s Alexa?

Alexa Bigwarfe is a wife, mother to 3 wildlings, devoted advocate, blogger, author, and publisher. Her writing career began after her infant daughter passed away at 2 days old. She has written and/or edited and published eight books, including Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother and Ditch the Fear and Just Write It! She uses that hard-earned publishing knowledge to support other writers and entrepreneurs at writepublishsell.co. She also owns the small hybrid-publishing company Kat Biggie Press (katbiggiepress.com), dedicated to sharing women’s works of inspiration and self-help. She enjoys drinking wine, spending time with her husband and friends, traveling, and just because life isn’t full enough, hosting the “Lose the Cape!” podcast featuring inspirational mothers and women making a difference in the world.

In this episode, we talk about Alexa’s personal journey, her podcast, and her career as a publisher.

Free Gift for You!

Alexa’s free gift for you is pretty amazing, I cannot tell a lie. It’s a FREE 30-day writing challenge. With over 250 million Americans who want to write a book, Alexa’s got 30 simple strategies over 30 days that will help you write that book that you desperately want to write. Sign up here. 

How to Watch

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The best questions to ask yourself if you want to avoid burnout

The best questions to ask yourself if you want to avoid burnout

Today’s post is a guest post from one of my faves and burnout expert, Mikayla Colthirst-Reid.

You’ve been there before (or maybe you’re there right now).

A calendar filled with things to keep you occupied.

A intense fear of being perceived as “lazy”, “unproductive” or “boring”.

A belief that being “busy” is a badge of honour.

And an all too familiar knowledge of what it’s like to crash and burnout over and over again.

Burnout is a common problem for high-achieving entrepreneurial and career-driven women. In fact, 43% of American women have admitted that their stress levels have steadily increased over the last 5 years (nearly a quarter of women reported their stress levels to be at an 8,9, or 10 on a 10-point scale).

The good news is that if you catch it in time, can prevent burnout from completely derailing your life.

Here are seven questions to ask yourself if you want to avoid (or bounce back from) burnout:

1.  When is the last time I said “no” to something?

Learning to say “no” is essential to protecting yourself from burnout. If you’ve been saying yes a lot lately, that could be the reason why you’re feeling overwhelmed, overworked and on the verge of a meltdown. Ask yourself if the things that you’ve been saying yes to (or things that you haven’t been saying no to) are really priorities for you. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to make a difference, and serve your friends, family, clients, and colleagues powerfully. But neglecting your own need for reprieve is a surefire way to spiral into burnout before you know what hit you.

Do a quick check-in with yourself every week to make sure your activities or promised commitments are in alignment with your priorities and capacity. The ‘Overwhelmed to in-control’ workbook is a great tool to help with this process!

2.  Have I exercised today?

We all know that even a little bit of exercise improves your mood, energy levels and overall sense of well-being. I know that if I miss my workout, I’m more likely to lack energy, patience and less positive overall. When you don’t feel great, it’s easy to hit snooze for an extra 30 minutes and forgo the gym. But when you don’t move your body, it’s easier to let those negative self-critical thoughts creep in, thoughts that contribute to even more anxiety and stress about all the things you’re failing to do.

If you haven’t gotten any exercise lately and you feel yourself on the verge of burnout, go work out! Take a brisk walk. Do 10 squats, do some burpees (even though noone likes burpees!), do 10 or 15 pushups. A little bit is better than nothing at all. Check out this list of amazing apps for quick workouts on the go! Whatever your blood-pumping activity you choose, get it done and you’ll instantly feel better.

3.  How much sleep have I gotten lately?

Sleep is important for more than just the usual rest and recharge. A lack of sleep can actually impact the way you recall memories and feelings about your own life and the world in general. According to sleep specialist Robert Stickgold, when you’re sleep deprived, you recall more negative experiences and feelings than positive ones.

For example: Let’s say that yesterday you had 10 feel-good experiences and 10 things that made you feel angry, anxious, sad or stressed. If you got three hours less sleep than is optimal for function (research suggests at least 7 hours for most people). You’re more likely to remember the 10 bad things and blow them up, all the while minimising (or completely disregarding) the 10 good things that happened.

Seeing life through this negative lense is bound to have an adverse effect on your self-esteem, confidence and resilience which, when combined with an insane schedule, are all perfect ingredients for a bad case of burnout  It’s time to catch some zzz’s!

Try working a relaxing ritual into your bedtime routine like cutting off screen time, sipping a cup of your favorite herbal tea or settling in a half hour early with a good book.

4.  What are the things in my calendar over the next 7 days that are essential?

Take a look at what’s on your plate for the next week or so. If you’re starting to feel overworked and dangerously close to burnout, it’s important to figure out what is essential and cut the rest. Once you’ve eliminated or deferred the inessentials, pull away from the chaos to rest, retreat and just take some time out.

Even a day, a half day or a couple of hours to yourself can work wonders.

Changing your environment and usual routine is powerful, so if whatever’s in your calendar isn’t life or death, rearrange things and spend time getting your mind right instead.

5.  Who can I talk to about this?

At the end of your rope? Don’t keep it to yourself.

For many people under pressure and feeling the weight of their commitments mounting, It seems counterintuitive to admit what seems like defeat when you’re about to hit your capacity (which is why you’re probably at this point in the first place).

If you’re a busy, professional women, you’re obviously working hard and striving to be successful in your career or business. It’s hard to admit that you’re burnt out and can’t handle things so you bottle it up instead.  But as Tony Robbins says, “if you stay in your head, you’re dead”.

Don’t keep things in your head, get them off your chest either by reaching out to someone or keeping a journal to express and process your inner challenges.

6.  Have I been celebrating my wins?

When I first stepped into the world of health coaching, I would constantly work and work and work without stopping to celebrate whenever I had done something awesome. Whenever I started to burnout or feel discouraged, my business coach would get me to write down a list of all the people that I helped that week, or all the people that said that because of talking to me they accomplished something.

It might sound strange, but that exercise was extremely effective.

Here I was thinking I was just spinning my wheels and not actually making progress or making a real difference in peoples’ lives, but looking at the facts helped me to put things into perspective.

I was helping people, I was moving forward and I was gaining huge momentum.

Not celebrating your wins is a sure-fire fast-track road to burnout city. When you feel like you’re about to implode from stress, stop and honestly consider the last time you celebrated something great that you did.

Can’t remember?

Get out your pen and paper and start making that list of wins!

7.  What is one small thing I can do today for self-care?

The smallest things that you do to take care of yourself are important. Set a date with yourself. Make yourself a cup of tea. Go for a walk for 20 minutes. Instead of staying up late to finish that blog post or that project, take half an hour, get in bed early and read a book. Because that half an hour that you take to do that will make you way more productive tomorrow and the next day and the next day.

You’ll probably just earn that time and money back through productivity anyway.

Adding more self-care into your day, even just one small thing, can release you from the death-grip of burnout in no time.

Burnout is something we all want to avoid but it’s often our own mindset and habits that take us there. Next time you feel the impending doom of burnout, pause and quickly run through these questions. By reflecting and course-correcting, you’ll be sure to keep burnout at bay. Use my free ‘Overwhelmed to In Control’ workbook to get a handle on your burnout for good (in 5 days or less!).

Mikayla Colthirst-Reid is the boss of Naturally Whole. For more Mikayla, check out her site or listen to her podcast episode on The Notable Woman here

 

 

 

You are a notable woman!

You are a notable woman!

Founder of The Notable Woman, Cristin Downs

The Notable Woman is proud to present the Super U Summit, 30 empowering women speakers over 10 days.

In this Super U Summit Talk, the founder of The Notable Woman Cristin Downs gives her closing talk “You Are a Notable Woman.”

Who’s Cristin?

Cristin is the founder of The Notable Woman. She is an activator and technician, a storyteller and truth speaker, a connector and bridge builder. She has an aversion to bullshit, is incredibly transparent and authentic, and has absolutely zero poker face. She believes we are not judged by what we say or think but by what we do, and she is energized by possibility. There is nothing Cristin is more vehement about than the role of women in realizing the new world order. On a less intense note, Cristin’s a  bookworm, pizza / wine / ice cream lover, and former theatre professional with a decade + in the wings. Mama to a tiny toddler mischief maker and pet menagerie, Cristin holds down the fort in NYC with her actor hubby Michael Moreno.

TELL ME MORE ABOUT THE TALK TOPIC

Learn the what of women rocking the world, how we sometimes keep our own selves down, why we would ever do that in the first place, and how you can break those bad habits and say, “I am a notable woman!” We women can own our own power.

FREE GIFT FOR YOU

Cristin’s gift for you is her monthly “Fuel for Your Feminine Fire” Wallpaper. Quotes by women, for women, all geared to owning our awesome power as women. Click here to get this month’s download.

HOW TO WATCH

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